You can be loved but then people may walk all over you.
You can be feared. No one will like you but they’ll be too scared to cross you.
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Being loved is better, in my opinion. Being loved is not synonymous with being walked on. People who truly love you don’t walk on you. They may accidentally step on your toes, but you may step on theirs, too.
There’s definitely a danger of kind people being walked on. I’ve been walked on mostly by people who don’t care about me. The solution is to prepare for it and not allow it. Know your worth. Know your goals. Know your limits. Make it clear that people should not mistake your kindness for weakness.