If I’m understanding Buddhism correctly, and I probably am not, life and in particular, all of the material and greedy pursuits that we tend to seek are fleeting and impermanent, therefore they can never make us truly happy so we should either stop chasing them or if we do chase them we should not feel bad if we fail because had we succeeded we were eventually going to lose whatever it was that we were pursuing anyway.
The big house, the fancy car, the supermodel girlfriend with the giant fake boobs – these will all be lost sooner or later so rather than beat yourself up for not achieving them, focus on calmness of mind and spirit and meditate.
If your mind starts to dwell on mistakes you made in the past, mistakes you made that cause you to hate yourself because you feel they prevented you from getting the big house, the fancy car and the girlfriend with the big fake boobs, then close your eyes and mediate. Focus on your breathing, focus your mind on thinking about nothing, repeat a mantra and chant it over and over again, essentially distract your mind. You will only feel bad if you keep rehashing all of your failures in your mind. Focus instead on meditation.
It’s basically like those shirts – “Keep calm and…” Well, instead of “and drink beer” or whatever, it’s “Keep Calm and Meditate.”
Anyway, I’m sure there are better buddhists out there who could explain this better. I tend to research subjects related to novels I am working on at the moment so don’t mind me, I’ll be researching something else in the next five minutes.
Also, in theory, I feel like the girlfriend with the big fake boobs would be a calming influence but only if you could have access to the big fake boobs without the ensuing problems that go with them but let’s keep it real. She’d probably bring a lot of drama into your life, want all your money, leave you broke, cheat on you with the pool boy and so on.
Until they invent robot girlfriends with big fake boobs, meditation may be our only hope for staying calm.
What say you, 3.5 readers?